I know that a lot of people I respect cheering goodbye to Thatcher. I know that for those on the left, the damage inflicted was unforgivable And I know that Thatcher was not a feminist icon – rather than taking the chance to lead the way, she chose instead to argue that women were rubbish, but she was exceptional.
But my life, and my feminism have been hugely affected and inspired by Thatcher, and I’m grateful for that.
I was born just two weeks after Thatcher was elected. I lived my entire childhood with a female Prime Minister. I realised at 11 and a half that my world was going to change. That we were going to have a man as Prime Minister. I remember so clearly, writing in my diary a rationale about all the ways I thought a man as Prime Minister was a really bad idea.
Thatcher was an inspiration. I grew up with a strong belief that I could do anything, be anything. I knew that my Mum had had to make sacrifices to have a family. But I could do anything – look at Thatcher. I know the reality was different. That actually Thatcher had received the keys to the executive bathroom, but was not only closing the door behind her, she was nailing it shut. But as a child, she represented possibility. A woman on the world stage – as important as Reagan and Gorbachev.
Since then, women have fallen out of sight in British politics. As a child, I looked up to Thatcher – the Iron Lady, the one with the Poll Tax, and Edwina Curry, the one with the eggs. And now for female politicians (if the papers are to be believed) we have the one with the shoes and the one with the cleavage.
How could I have been anything but inspired by the women leading our country, being taken seriously as politicians, being claimed as a product of the finest Universities.
I know that I have some seriously rose-tinted spectacles on here. I know that actually, if I’d been just a little bit older, I would probably have been joining in the cheers at her downfall. But just for now, for me, personally, I want to tip my hat.
To a woman that inspired me, that taught me that I really could do anything, become anything. That there wasn’t an opportunity beyond my reach. That I could not be held back by my gender.
Thank you Mrs Thatcher.
Today, @Number10gov tweeted how much they support International Women’s Day:
From access to justice & healthcare to empowering women in business, the UK gov’t is helping women across the globe #IWD…
Empowering women? This is from the government that is made up of just one sixth female ministers. The government who called on a female MP to “calm down dear”. The government who has seen the number of women in senior civil service posts decline so much that women are nearly invisible. The government who has seen an increasing pay-gap between men and women.
Better access to justice? This is from a government who oversaw the Sapphire Unit – the unit who encouraged rape victims to drop their complaints. A Justice Secretary who distinguishes between “real rape” and something else that’s not quite rape EXCEPT IT IS. A government that has removed legal aid from women looking to leave abusive relationships. A government who couldn’t find a single female candidate to nominate to the supreme court.
Better access to healthcare? From a government who allowed Nadine Dorries’ bill to severely restrict women’s rights to independent counselling and access to abortion services. A government that remains committed to reviewing the time-limit on abortions.
To do all this and then add a bland tweet trying to claim support for women is like rubbing salt in a wound. Don’t try and pretend anything else. David Cameron, Number 10, and this government are anti-women.
It’s not news that women are hugely under-represented when it comes to news commentary, professional panels and conferences – anything where expertise is valued. The excuse so commonly given is that the organisers just don’t know any women who are experts in x,y or z. Which is why I am so thrilled to hear about @theWomensRoomUK, who are setting up a database to ensure that the media can always find a female expert. Getting rid of the easiest excuse – that they just can’t find a woman – ensures that at the very least, organisers are left with just two options: to come out and admit to their misogyny, or to admit their complete lack of knowledge of their subject.
Which is exactly what happened to the organisers of a fundraising summit recently. Fundraising has a good track record, with many incredible women achieving great things, and heading up well-known organisations. So when challenged about why organisers couldn’t find women to speak at their summit, Giles Pegram stated it was because women weren’t the “thinkers” in Fundraising. Which shows a brilliant lack of knowledge about the fundraising sector, along with a healthy dose of misogyny. Is it any surprise that the event had to be cancelled – or did Mr Pegram really think that female fundraising directors would take a break from their tea-making-duties to come along to listen to what the men thought of their profession?
I have a feeling that the reaction will be written off as “hysterical” women and a problem with social media rather than fundraising. But I do hope it gives pause to the next organisers of a conference. Not “believing” in quotas is an easy thing to say when you’re represented. It’s not so easy when you’re on the outside. It can be very hard to know when you’re part of a club. You may think of yourself as an outgoing and approachable person. But if this cancellation can encourage organisers to look around at their panels, perhaps they will start to see that they are looking at the same faces over and over again. Maybe when they realise this, they will look for a practical and simple solution – such as that offered by @theWomensRoomUK.
So I’m singing the praises of The Women’s Room in two different ways. Removing the easy excuse, which will hopefully prevent laziness. And making it easy for those that want to challenge a boys club to find a way to do it. What a brilliant idea.
We now live in a world where car insurers can’t charge men more for being male. While I’m not jumping up and down with excitement at the thought of paying more for my insurance (and I’m not naive enough to think me paying more will mean my boyfriend paying less) I do think this is a step in the direction of equality. Ok, I’d have much rather other things came first – how about equal pay before equal charges? – but I really can’t gripe about a in the right direction.
Jo Swinson, Minister for Women and Equality described this change as “very unfair” in the Telegraph on Christmas Eve. But her arguments seem to fall flat. Rural transport is unreliable – just as much an issue for men as for women. Using public transport can be dangerous at night – again, an issue for men as well as for women, and the idea that women shouldn’t use public transport is wrong – women should have the right to travel at night, they shouldn’t have some sort of public curfew. Women also shouldn’t have the primary responsibility for ferrying children around.
Insurance does depend on risk assessment which uses all kinds of information to judge you – your postcode, your income (you pay a lot less insurance if you have a garage, or a drive instead of having to park on the street), your occupation. And I do understand the argument that women are statistically judged as being less of an insurance risk. But I think we have gone past the point where people would think it acceptable to say that white people should pay more for insurance, or that Christians should pay less. So why is it so acceptable to say women should be treated differently?
Finally, if there is any doubt that treating women differently for insurance purposes is sexist, take a look at this Ad from Diamond from late November:
It shows all the things women are interested in – like lipstick and jewellery and smellies, whilst using juvenile text speak. Guess what Diamond – women aren’t children. Women aren’t childlike. If that means I have to spend more on my car insurance… Well of course I’m not pleased that I get to give more money to insurance companies. But am I pleased that this is one area I won’t have to see sexist advertising in? Yes.
Of course I’ve been angry about the stupid comments from George Galloway, Ted Akin and others this week, just as I was with the Ken Clarke comments last year. To me, it’s simple – sex needs to be consensual, anything else is rape. And I’m really not quite sure how that’s a contentious comment.
A lot of great commentators have written about these comments, and so I’m not going to rewrite them here.
These comments were at best misinformed, and people running for office (or sitting on the House of Representatives Science committee FFS) really shouldn’t be so misinformed. I’d go further and say these comments were dangerous – adding justification to any rapists that if they’re not holding a knife to a woman’s throat then what they are doing is ok.
The bit that I find really dangerous is when this kind of speak – from elected representatives – is seen alongside this report about representation in the senior ranks of the Civil Service. I’ve already spoken a lot about how much our politicians are white and male, and they are now ‘rolling this out’ to the civil service. While Gus O’Donnell managed to leave a Civil Service with an equal balance of men and women at the top, a lot of the women have moved on recently, and there’s now a real danger that these top posts will go to men again.
I do understand the arguments against affirmative action – that individual merit should be the most important factor. Except it’s not all about individuals. It’s about the group of people running the country, and them all looking exactly the same. If the criteria that they use to recruit is valuing what they are already good at, then they will keep on recruiting people that look like them. That doesn’t mean that people with different skills are less efficient, it simply means they are different. And that is the problem with crying “affirmative action isn’t fair”. It is fair in the wider sense. It is fair to everyone, rather than just one. And it’s fair in that it forces people not to look for the person most like them (as most recruitment policies do) but to look for people differently.
Please understand my argument before screaming about all the discriminated against white men out there. I’m not saying a lesser-woman should get a role over a better-man. I’m saying that when any organisation becomes so unbalanced that everyone looks the same, they are likely to need to be forced to consider ‘outsiders’. I’m saying that an organisation that has looked exactly the same for hundreds of years is going to need a little encouragement to change. It will need to be persuaded that change is needed and desirable.
And put this against the backdrop we are painting – of politicians who so misunderstand biology that they believe women can’t become pregnant from rape. Of politicians who so misunderstand the law that they claim having sex with a woman who can’t give consent, or proceeding to force someone into another sex act because they’d already agreed to something else, wouldn’t be crimes in the UK. Jonathan Freedland wrote brilliantly in The Guardian on Friday about how these incidents are part of a wider misogyny amongst politicians. And if we were to let our other branches of government, including the Civil Service fall further into the hands of this group of privileged men, we are seriously putting human rights at risk.
Today, the tragic case of a murdered family has been in the news as the trial opens.
Rzeszowski is accused of stabbing his wife, their two children, his wife’s friend and her daughter, and his father-in-law. He tried to enter a plea of manslaughter due to diminished responsibility, which was refuted by the prosecution, and rejected by the court.
And yet, the media seem quite happy to blame his wife and imply that this wasn’t really his fault. Has anyone seen a report which doesn’t include either “driven to”, “couldn’t cope with” or “as a result of”? Has anyone seen a report which doesn’t mention that his wife had told him she’d had an affair? Or a report that doesn’t state the actions were as a result of “domestic problems”?
People wonder why so few are willing to report or press charges in cases of domestic violence. Well here’s a clue. Even in this extreme case of a mass-murder, there are strong hints from the media that this was her fault. This mess could all have been avoided if she’d been a better wife.
Even when the courts are pursuing a murder charge and rejecting the plea of diminished responsibility, the media are there to argue “yeah but…”. This reporting is something I’ve mentioned before, and really isn’t a surprise. But it needs to be stated again. Victim blaming isn’t acceptable. Whether Rzeszowski was in control or not, responsible or not is to be determined by the court. But whoever was responsible – it wasn’t the victims.
This week, Marketing Week had me bashing my head on my desk over this article – an inconvenient brand truth.
They took a survey which shows that having diverse boards will improve business performance, then looked at Super-Brand Apple with only white middle-class men on the board, and leapt to a whole bunch of stupid conclusions.
Here are the two reasons they are stupid.
One – an anecdote isn’t evidence. Just because Apple is doing well with an un-diverse board doesn’t mean diverse boards don’t work. It’s not like they took two Steve Jobs, gave one a company with a diverse board, and one a company with a board that looked just like him, and studied the results. You cannot use one anecdote to refute a survey.
And Two – diversity isn’t something you do because “women bring different skills”. You do it because that way you get the best. The whine-y comments underneath that it’s not fair on white middle-class men as the poor scraps can’t get a job any more only underlined this. Once you force boards to look for more diverse candidates, they suddenly realise that actually, people who don’t look like them can be even better candidates than those that do.
Diversity doesn’t penalise white men. Diversity creates a level playing feel, and then, what a surprise, it’s not always white men that come out top.
I’m not refuting the article’s conclusion that Apple is an exceptional brand, that has always operated in an exceptional way. But why is this prompted by a survey about equality? This article could have focussed on innovation, doing things differently, standing out from the crowd. By choosing to focus on equality and diversity, the author reduced himself to simply being a white, middle class man moaning “what about teh menz” and completely missing his own point. Poor journalism, based on the idea that a cave-man rally cry will get extra headlines. Why couldn’t the article on equality have prompted Marketing Week to look at itself and the industry more widely? Maybe start introducing a diversity audit for it’s own panel discussions and events? Or have a think about why all their columnists are white middle class men?
This is the inconvenient truth – that pedalling and celebrating old stereotypes isn’t what drives anything forward.